(2) Comments posted for How to Control emotions in Children or how to build emtional intelligence in children?
Rosie_0801 says...
Children take time to develop. There’s a reason they don’t have the same legal rights as adults. Developing their emotional intelligence takes time and plenty of (preferably positive) reinforcement. Sometimes adults cry too, when things don’t go their way. A child will cry when you say no, in an attempt to get you to change your mind. If it works, good luck to them, really! If you are polite and firmly say no, they will learn that that technique won’t work. Eventually they’ll grow up to the point where they’d be embarrassed to even try. I remember I was out with a young neighbour one day, and she started putting on the whiney voice. I looked down at her in surprise and asked “what’s with the whingy voice?” she looked up as if to say “oh yeah, it’s you, sorry” and went back to normal. Clearly some adult in her life was willing to put up with it, but she knew I didn’t. Reemmber that kids are allowed to feel emotional, it’s just how they express it that needs to be trained. It’s ok to cry if you are angry or frustrated that you aren’t allowed to play more video games. It’s not ok to kick the playstation or shout abuse at Mum.
Posted on: 18/Jul/2008@5:04 pm
Spiritualseeker says...
We have to remember that when we try to keep children away from TV, Video Games, or computer games etc, we are in direct competition with those big people who have created & marketed those games. They are very intelligent, and know how to make money, so they are far more superior than us in attracting children towards those games than us, when we try to discourage children!
The only advantage we have,( it is indeed a very big , significant advantage), is that the children are very much within our reach, and we love our children UNCONDITIONALLY. So, we have to maintain awareness of this advantage, and patiently explain the disadvantages of spending too much time on these games, using the stories of real life heroes, who perform well in life. Also invite some children of same age who are better convinced about spending time more usefully, to share their opinion . We have to participate in the thought process of children to convince them effectively , in such a way that they would need no control or even supervision, to keep away from temptation to spend too much time on these games.
Children take time to develop. There’s a reason they don’t have the same legal rights as adults. Developing their emotional intelligence takes time and plenty of (preferably positive) reinforcement. Sometimes adults cry too, when things don’t go their way. A child will cry when you say no, in an attempt to get you to change your mind. If it works, good luck to them, really! If you are polite and firmly say no, they will learn that that technique won’t work. Eventually they’ll grow up to the point where they’d be embarrassed to even try. I remember I was out with a young neighbour one day, and she started putting on the whiney voice. I looked down at her in surprise and asked “what’s with the whingy voice?” she looked up as if to say “oh yeah, it’s you, sorry” and went back to normal. Clearly some adult in her life was willing to put up with it, but she knew I didn’t. Reemmber that kids are allowed to feel emotional, it’s just how they express it that needs to be trained. It’s ok to cry if you are angry or frustrated that you aren’t allowed to play more video games. It’s not ok to kick the playstation or shout abuse at Mum.
We have to remember that when we try to keep children away from TV, Video Games, or computer games etc, we are in direct competition with those big people who have created & marketed those games. They are very intelligent, and know how to make money, so they are far more superior than us in attracting children towards those games than us, when we try to discourage children!
The only advantage we have,( it is indeed a very big , significant advantage), is that the children are very much within our reach, and we love our children UNCONDITIONALLY. So, we have to maintain awareness of this advantage, and patiently explain the disadvantages of spending too much time on these games, using the stories of real life heroes, who perform well in life. Also invite some children of same age who are better convinced about spending time more usefully, to share their opinion . We have to participate in the thought process of children to convince them effectively , in such a way that they would need no control or even supervision, to keep away from temptation to spend too much time on these games.